Tuesday, February 14, 2006


In life there must be things that you agree with and disagree with. Its also essential to have ideologies that you believe in and others that you do not believe in.Its purity of life and one among few areas that offers totally independence and freedom of opinions.Whether the same qualifies into "freedom of speech" myths and truths,it is a matter of choices like that of promised paradise and hell!

I do not believe in counselling! Does this sentence shock you?I am sorry if it does because I wish it does not.One of many north american cultural values that I don't believe in is the entire issue of believing that counselling works and helps individuals to change and become better person(s). Thinking of it as a cultural practise makes it easier for me to accept it simply because I respect each and every culture on earth.Respect does not equal agree or believe in. Is there best counsellor on earth than yourself? Does the story telling sessions full of self opinion and un-unique circumstances change the way you look at issues and all areas that have been subjected to counselling? I am hoping to find some answers in this journey of learning the complexity of people's mind.

See,the world has mostly two choices. The good and the bad.Sometimes the bad becomes the good and the good turns to be the bad! Its what we call LIFE and sometimes do not even bother to question it into its own justice.How many people have been helped by counsellors? By "helped" I mean change their pattern of lifestyles to better just because of countless sessions they had with the men and women who believes to be angel like citizens? The bad being the good and the good being the bad concludes that its only a person himself/herself who has to come to some sort of conclusion that hey I need to change,I need a new chapter of my life.Its only you who can save yourself,because as far as I know you have your own soul and your own life to gamble with.Counsellors talks,they intimidate,they scare people,they offer limited or unlimited support(depends on situation) support,they air their own opinions,that is what they are trained to do.At the end of the day,you have to form your own opinion and your own counsel.

Societies needs supporters and people who will seriously warn about possible consequences.Let people remain their own counsellors! Let us have story tellers who puts on the table different cases and how they were solved or remained cold cases.Believing that somehow,some people could get into other people's mindsets brings joke in life.Its my opinion.Peace.


michael the tubthumper said...

i completely agree. there are cases where it helps but for the most part i don't think it is of much use.

joh cleese the comedian wrote something funny about it his 'Letter to the American People"....

"12. Learn to resolve personal issues without guns, lawyers or therapists. That you need many lawyers and therapists shows you’re not adult enough to be independent. If you’re not adult enough to sort things out without suing someone or speaking to a therapist, you’re not grown up enough to handle a gun."

mandora said...

I couldn't agree more. I've posted on my blog about the problem with the over exagerated sense of individualism that we seem to foster in the West. Therapy just fits nicely into the whole 'I'm an individual' ideology.

Waste of time, money and energy, especially since 90% of the problems stem from the individualizing of our society.

Anonymous said...

"Let us have story tellers who puts on the table"

I can't agree better. If you don't tell your own story, then some one else will tell it. S/he will tell it in a way that you don't like it.


mama mia said...

I read somewhere that the rate of divorce among marriage counselors is like twice to three times that of the counselee. A case of 'physician, heal thyself'?

I don't believe in counseling either.